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My_Lonely_Testimony_
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posted on 16-5-2013 at 02:27 PM
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| Quote: | Originally posted by Ravenira
For 2 years, I was cheated on. And I had no idea. I wondered, yes, but I never really found out until after I had moved states away and we broke up
and one of the women came out to me and said she had sex with him, knowing he was mine, and that she wasn't the only one. And once I found out, it
was like the truth just kept coming, even after I thought I had heard everything....
When I moved states, we stayed together. And I found out after we broke up that he cheated on me with his pregnant best friend, that she's the one he
started dating once I was fully out of the picture. I also found out about the girl living at his best friend's house who he had sex with more than
he ever had sex with me. And all the young girls that he made empty promises to and bought things for.
And when I asked him why, I never got a real answer. He still can not give me an answer. Yes, we've tried again, been off and on. And we're back
together now. But during those off stages, he always went back to the girl who had been pregnant when he cheated on me with her. She was always the
one in the background, always the one he went back to. And she did him almost as bad as he did me.
He says that he's been faithful to me the times we were on throughout this past year. But he's put me through so much shit... To think that I
trusted him, and he lied so easily and so successfully. He looked me in my eyes and lied. He made me cry and apologize for accusing him of cheating
and lying, when it's what he was doing. And he remembers details like that vastly differently than I do. He makes me feel like perhaps I'm the crazy
one, like he's so fucking innocent, even when he knows he's not.
But I still love him. And we're trying again. And things seem... seem like they're going okay. But he gets angry when I bring up the past, when the
past still affects me. He feels I should just move on and let the past stay there. He tells me I'll never change, that I'll always be holding our
relationship back and poisoning it by holding on to the things that are eating away at my soul, the things he did to me. As if I can let them go...
especially when it really wasn't that long ago that he was back with the girl that turned his head away from me...
My question is, have you ever been cheated on? Have you ever cheated? What is your story? Do you still harbor pain? Were things ever fixed? Rant away,
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To live is to suffer, to survive is to find some meaning in the suffering.
-Friedrich Nietzsche
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Prizrak
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Last active: 23-5-2013 at 08:55 PM
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posted on 17-5-2013 at 10:34 AM
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Cheated once and never done it again. There's no point, if the person you are committed to isn't enough, leave. Also been cheated on, by every girl
I've been with.
My story: First girlfriend ever, summer before freshman year, everything was cool until I switched schools right after Halloween, we broke up and I
later found out she'd been cheating since I left. I wad angry for quite a while after that, at everything.
Second actual relationship started off her technically cheating on the guy before me with me, which should have been a red flag but I liked her, she
was different and, as far as I thought at the time, way out of my league. A while later I'm at an all day festival and who do I run into? The first
girlfriend! Make a huge mistake and make out a bit (still a virgin at the time, hadn't gotten too far past that yet) and instantly regret it,
grabbing my shit and jumping into the big swirling pit at the other side of the lawn so I didn't have to think, told her as soon as I got home, and
it actually helped me realize how I felt about her. A while later, she spent a week cheating on me with my best friend and proceeds to leave me for
him, killing that friendship for a while (I'm actually the best man in his upcoming wedding to another woman).While we aren't friends she proceeds
to cheat on him with me, sex apparently being the only thing she kept me around for.
A surprising amount of time later I meet, who I am convinced, is the love of my life. This is the woman I'm proposing to once our situation betters.
She also cheated on me for three weeks straight in our home while I was forced to sleep in my own room, separate from hers. (Weird situation, was a
secret from her family and coworkers though a fair number aren't stupid and see it) She didn't sleep with him, I know because I saw both of their
phones without their knowledge and he complained that she absolutely wouldn't sleep with him, he was under the impression, and she played into it
hard, that they were together. Shit has been worked out over that and we're both repairing some damage to our lives (suddenhhomelessness + unexpected
job loss caused us to have to be separate) and we're planning on getting back together as soon as she moves out of the hotel and comes out to
everyone that we're together(her need to wsit is why we're on a break)
I can't agree with the "once a cheater, always a cheater" thing, but i do think that people refuse to change unless they have to. If he does it
again, or treats you like shit more, drop him. Dont let him crawl back, make him know you don't NEED him, and he'll fix himself. If he doesn't and
continues how he is, you haven't lost anything but someone who doesn't think highly enough or respect you enough to quit.
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My_Lonely_Testimony_
Fledgling
Points: 251
Last active: 22-5-2013 at 06:47 PM
Location: The place you never thought to look.
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Mood: Why bother telling you? Its not like you give a damn...
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posted on 18-5-2013 at 03:47 PM
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| Quote: | Originally posted by Prizrak
Cheated once and never done it again. There's no point, if the person you are committed to isn't enough, leave. Also been cheated on, by every girl
I've been with.
My story: First girlfriend ever, summer before freshman year, everything was cool until I switched schools right after Halloween, we broke up and I
later found out she'd been cheating since I left. I wad angry for quite a while after that, at everything.
Second actual relationship started off her technically cheating on the guy before me with me, which should have been a red flag but I liked her, she
was different and, as far as I thought at the time, way out of my league. A while later I'm at an all day festival and who do I run into? The first
girlfriend! Make a huge mistake and make out a bit (still a virgin at the time, hadn't gotten too far past that yet) and instantly regret it,
grabbing my shit and jumping into the big swirling pit at the other side of the lawn so I didn't have to think, told her as soon as I got home, and
it actually helped me realize how I felt about her. A while later, she spent a week cheating on me with my best friend and proceeds to leave me for
him, killing that friendship for a while (I'm actually the best man in his upcoming wedding to another woman).While we aren't friends she proceeds
to cheat on him with me, sex apparently being the only thing she kept me around for.
A surprising amount of time later I meet, who I am convinced, is the love of my life. This is the woman I'm proposing to once our situation betters.
She also cheated on me for three weeks straight in our home while I was forced to sleep in my own room, separate from hers. (Weird situation, was a
secret from her family and coworkers though a fair number aren't stupid and see it) She didn't sleep with him, I know because I saw both of their
phones without their knowledge and he complained that she absolutely wouldn't sleep with him, he was under the impression, and she played into it
hard, that they were together. Shit has been worked out over that and we're both repairing some damage to our lives (suddenhhomelessness + unexpected
job loss caused us to have to be separate) and we're planning on getting back together as soon as she moves out of the hotel and comes out to
everyone that we're together(her need to wsit is why we're on a break)
I can't agree with the "once a cheater, always a cheater" thing, but i do think that people refuse to change unless they have to. If he does it
again, or treats you like shit more, drop him. Dont let him crawl back, make him know you don't NEED him, and he'll fix himself. If he doesn't and
continues how he is, you haven't lost anything but someone who doesn't think highly enough or respect you enough to quit. |
There are some thing in this post that I disagree with but he has a freaking point otherwise. Then again I suppose it's a lost cause because she will
continue to let it happen to her. Graveyard anyone?
To live is to suffer, to survive is to find some meaning in the suffering.
-Friedrich Nietzsche
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ShadowedBelief
Elder
Points: 636
Last active: 19-5-2013 at 06:51 PM
Location: Watching somthing funny
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Mood: Rofl
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posted on 18-5-2013 at 04:13 PM
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Never cheated or been cheated on thankfully.. But my ex told everyone I'd cheated on him with my current boyfriend. That wasn't a fun three months.
Still..
I can't imagine cheating on my boyfriend, like Prizrak says, if they're not enough leave them. But then, I can't imagine him cheating on me, and
for that I am eternally grateful.
If your guy cheats on you, leave him. If you know he's doing it and you go back to him then you have only yourself to blame if he does it again.
Plus, you could catch some seriously nasty things if he isn't/you arn't using protection. is it worth it?
Never take life seriously. Nobody gets out alive anyway.
When I die, I want to go peacefully like my Grandfather did, in his sleep -- not screaming, like the passengers in his car.
Energizer Bunny arrested, charged with battery.
Never go to a doctor whose office plants have died.
There are three types of people. Those who can count and those who can't.
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